Mom-Guilt Season Is Upon Us.

I really hate writing anything that divides “working” and “stay at home” moms — both using air quotes because we all work hard and we all care for our homes. But there is one season that really brings out my working mom guilt — and, hint-hint, it’s the same as swimsuit season, which is just plain unfair. Summer!

Have you heard? Summer’s coming! The teachers are counting down, the students are hyping up, the pools are about to open and everyone’s ready for some good summer fun! Everyone except those of us who don’t get a break. We have been scrambling to find childcare coverage for the summer months, and overpaying for summer camps that look really fun to compensate for the guilt of not giving our kids a break for the summer. The daily grind to get up, ready and out the door is a 12-month marathon over here, and the faint tune of the ice cream truck on a Tuesday afternoon is all the gut-punch it takes to make my eyes swell with tears.

Because my mom stayed home most of my childhood, I remember lazy mornings being able to bum around, and roaming the neighborhood until the street lights came on. There was a certain carefreeness that came along with the extra hours of sunshine, calming chirp of grasshoppers and glow of lightning bugs that I long for my kids to experience. Not that they don’t experience any of it, we definitely reduce our activities schedule during the summertime to allow for more outdoor, unstructured time and spend most of our weekends poolside. Alas, the daily hustle prevails.

This year, we will happily and as carefree-ly as possible continue to wake up, brush our teeth, brush our hairs, get dressed and head to school, daycare and camps with the joy of summer in our smiles, and the pang of monotony in our meltdowns. We will be grateful for jobs we love and extra thankful when the weekend rolls around. If you’re with me mama — your heart filled with a dash of sadness and the twinge of FOMO as summer quickly approaches — I really have nothing but this statement of solidarity. You are not alone, and we can do hard things.

I wish you weeknights on the driveway, weekends at the pool and a margarita with your name on it every Friday at 5.

10 thoughts on “Mom-Guilt Season Is Upon Us.

  1. Yes! I just posted about the whole mom guilt thing as well. My kids are still a bit young to understand the difference, but it doesn’t make it any easier.

  2. SAHM

    Then change your politics to give you family time, paid maternity leave, etc.!!!

    & also Stop having kids if your work is more important!👍 Stop whining that you don’t have summer off! Stay at home parents NEVER have any time off!!! It’s 24/7/365 with No pay, no health insurance, no vacations and no going back to work after a gap either.

      1. Kayla

        Thank you for being vulnerable with us, Megan despite any ridiculous negative feedback you may receive for sharing your story! I haven’t met a mom yet (working or otherwise) that doesn’t deal with mom guilt in some form.

    1. Momof2

      Absolutely ridiculous to come to this blog and leave such a comment. Stay at home parents never have any time off?? Please. As a sahm you are on vacation all summer long! And I’m sure your husband is getting paid and carries the families health insurance… Maybe you should revaluate your situation if that’s how you feel about your life.

      1. SAHM

        You are BEYOND uneducated and ignorant. No, I don’t have “vacation all summer long”…Do you think the laundry does itself? Do you think my food cooks itself? Do you think my kids go to the doctor appointments by themselves? Have you tried having an Autistic child yet? Try that then speak to me about “vacation all summer long”. My husband DOES NOT have insurance, I never had insurance in your stupid country, and your ridiculous assumption that “stay at home moms” are all rich is shameful and disgusting. My last real vacation was in 1998. You do the math. You must live in some unicorn reality TV land to blatantly assume everyone has health insurance and other benefits.

        Again, don’t have children if works comes first.

    2. Kara

      Shame on you… there are many women that work very hard to support their family out of necessity . It does not mean they love their children an less than a stay at home parent. To assume that someone’s job is more important than their children and that basically working women should not have children is a terrible comment to make. This article is not complaining about the mother not getting a summer break as much as her children not getting to experience true summer break.

  3. Kim

    I vote for year round school. Then, it is easier to take off around the breaks. Thank you for voicing what I have been feeling for over 15 year.

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